When guys pull back - 3 quick ways to handle the distance

As I am sure you already know, sometimes men pull away, pull back or become distant and it can really throw you for a loop especially if you did not see it coming.

Everything was fine three weeks ago, right? You two were going out to the movies, picnics, going on relaxing and exciting dates! Life was bliss! You were happy with this guy and he seemed to be very happy with you.

Now, you are barely lucky to see him once a week, he hardly calls and he is suddenly always busy.

And to make matters worse, he seems to have shut down on you. In other words, both you and he know that something is wrong because he isn't talking and you are trying to get him to spill it.

Recipe for disaster...

I encourage you, as frustrating as it is to be in this sort of situation, do NOT become unhinged. Respond to his pulling back with a level head.

Obviously there is something wrong, you just don't know what it is and he does not want to tell you. He prefers to keep a low profile.

If it is that he does not want to have a more committed relationship with you, that's fine. That's his call and he has every right to make that decision.

You respond logically at all costs. Here are three tips that will help you to handle this frustrating situation.

1. Leave him alone. 

Understand that if your boyfriend does not what to talk to you, trying to force him to talk to you or to open up to you will annoy him. If he is not calling you or wanting to spend as much time with him, let him be. Do not badger him. How do you like it when people try to force you to do things that you do not want to do?

2. Give him his space to think and to come find you. 

I know we hear this all the time. Give people their space. All it means is that you allow him to feel whatever he is feeling without any pressure. Let him figure it out. And who knows, later on when he feels like he wants to tell you what the problem is, then he'll seek you out.

3. Occupy your time with other ventures. 

If you do not keep yourself busy with whatever projects you have going on, you will drive yourself crazy trying to figure out if he still wants to be with you, if he still loves you and why isn't he opening up to you?

All questions that you cannot answer with certainty until he tells you outright... if he ever does. If he doesn't ever tell you and the relationship does end, at least your life didn't stop because of him. The earth is still spinning on its axis, right? Exactly...

These are three very quick ways to help you to put his pulling back from you into perspective.

The keys are giving him the space to come to you and to open up to you with whatever he is feeling and detaching yourself from any outcome to maintain your sanity and control!

Click here to understand why men pull away in the first place.

This video is an eye opener and can be the key you were searching for to take your relationship to the next level!

When men pull away - top three signs that he's pulling away

You are probably reading this article because you get that sneaky feeling that your boyfriend is pulling away from you or being distant.

You are not one hundred per cent sure because let's face it, you may be over reacting but one thing you do know is that something has changed and you need to get to the bottom of it.

If there is one thing I have learnt is that when you think that something is off, very often you are right!

So let's go through the top three signs that will clue you in on whether or not your boyfriend is pulling away from you.

1. He spends a lot less time with you now than he did before and he tells you that he is busy as his excuse as to why you two are spending little time together.

So in other words, if you two were seeing each other four or five times a week, you are barely seeing him once or twice now.

When you do see him, the conversation is not as free flowing and it seems as though his mind is elsewhere. His body is there but his mind clearly is not.

In addition, it doesn't seem like it is even that big of a deal that you two aren't seeing each other as often. He just does not seem to care.

What the heck? Doesn't he miss you at all? This is definitely a sign to monitor.

2. He doesn't call you as often as he used to and again it doesn't seem like he even misses hearing your voice.

When you call him, he is always too busy to have a real meaningful conversation with you and you always feel as though he is leaving you hanging.

If anything, this is one of the most important signs to take note of.

Does it seem as though you have unfinished business with him, like if a door is always being closed in your face without you being able to express yourself or spend time being with him or talking with him?

3. He doesn't make plans in advance like he did before.

When you two first started seeing each other, he made plans way in advance. This, as you know, is one of the signs that a guy is interested in you and wants to impress you with all of the fancy places he can take you. He wants to make sure that you two do exciting things together.

So when he starts to get downright lazy and nonchalant about what you two are doing and when, that is a clear sign that he is taking a big step back from the relationship and his commitment to you!

These are three of the main signs that your boyfriend is pulling back from you. Even one of these in isolation signals that there may be a problem in your relationship that needs a speedy solution of some type. 

Find out WHY men pull back from the women they love and how you can make sure that you draw him close again and have the kind of committed relationship you want!

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