As I am sure you already know, sometimes men pull away, pull back or become distant and it can really throw you for a loop especially if you did not see it coming.
Everything was fine three weeks ago, right? You two were going out to the movies, picnics, going on relaxing and exciting dates! Life was bliss! You were happy with this guy and he seemed to be very happy with you.
Now, you are barely lucky to see him once a week, he hardly calls and he is suddenly always busy.
And to make matters worse, he seems to have shut down on you. In other words, both you and he know that something is wrong because he isn't talking and you are trying to get him to spill it.
Recipe for disaster...
I encourage you, as frustrating as it is to be in this sort of situation, do NOT become unhinged. Respond to his pulling back with a level head.
Obviously there is something wrong, you just don't know what it is and he does not want to tell you. He prefers to keep a low profile.
If it is that he does not want to have a more committed relationship with you, that's fine. That's his call and he has every right to make that decision.
You respond logically at all costs. Here are three tips that will help you to handle this frustrating situation.
1. Leave him alone.
Understand that if your boyfriend does not what to talk to you, trying to force him to talk to you or to open up to you will annoy him. If he is not calling you or wanting to spend as much time with him, let him be. Do not badger him. How do you like it when people try to force you to do things that you do not want to do?
2. Give him his space to think and to come find you.
I know we hear this all the time. Give people their space. All it means is that you allow him to feel whatever he is feeling without any pressure. Let him figure it out. And who knows, later on when he feels like he wants to tell you what the problem is, then he'll seek you out.
3. Occupy your time with other ventures.
If you do not keep yourself busy with whatever projects you have going on, you will drive yourself crazy trying to figure out if he still wants to be with you, if he still loves you and why isn't he opening up to you?
All questions that you cannot answer with certainty until he tells you outright... if he ever does. If he doesn't ever tell you and the relationship does end, at least your life didn't stop because of him. The earth is still spinning on its axis, right? Exactly...
These are three very quick ways to help you to put his pulling back from you into perspective.
The keys are giving him the space to come to you and to open up to you with whatever he is feeling and detaching yourself from any outcome to maintain your sanity and control!
Click here to understand why men pull away in the first place.
This video is an eye opener and can be the key you were searching for to take your relationship to the next level!
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