I've been waiting for him to propose - will he ever marry me?

How long have you two been together?

If it's been more than a year or two I really do think that you have every right, if you want to get married, to start wondering "will he ever marry me?"

There are two of you in this relationship and for it to work and work smoothly, each of you has to be getting what you want from the relationship.

Or maybe I should say that each of you has to be getting enough from the relationship to keep you happy, satisfied and wanting to be with the other.

If that is not the case then one or the other of you, will subconsciously start to reevaluate the part of the relationship that is not satisfactory to you in the hope of resolving the problem in some form or fashion.

That is the point that YOU are at, right?

If you have been paying attention to the clues that your boyfriend has been giving, you may be able to answer your own question.

Has he said:

1. He is not ready to get married 

If so, then he has probably also told you why. He has probably given you a list a good reasons why he's not ready to marry you right now. You have to determine if those reasons are justifiable. If you believe they are justifiable, then how long are you prepared to wait until he is ready, IF he ever becomes ready...

2. He just thinks that marriage is a piece of paper and look at how many of his friends are doing just fine without getting married - then listen to him. 

You pretty much have your answer right there. He doesn't sound like the type of man who is rushing to go down the aisle and certainly not with you. It's now up to you to decide whether or not you want to stay with him now that you know that.

3. He's afraid of getting divorced so he thinks it's better not to get married in the first place - again listen to him.

If this is a real fear, and it very well might be, then you are not going to change his mind on this one very soon are you, so once again, you are going to have to determine whether it will make you happy and content to stay in the relationship knowing that he may never change his mind.

Have you noticed that

4. He doesn't speak of the future using "we".

So if he says something like "whenever you get married" or  "when you have kids" Notice he doesn't say "whenever we get married" or  "when we get kids". This is another clue that he probably really has no intention of marrying you even after 2+ years of you two being together. It's time for you to re-evaluate your relationship with him, because you already have your answer.

5. If you have brought up the conservation about marriage, you notice that he is lukewarm about it and tries to change to subject or end the conversation as quickly as possible.

You may even notice that he pulls away and acts distant. That is another clue that he is not comfortable talking about that subject with you.

These are just five things that a man might say and do when he is not ready to get married or has no intention to. So to answer your question, "will he ever marry me", I think you already know the answer.

Click here to watch the video that explains how men just instantly know when they want to marry a woman or not. The problem is that they never tell you.

Should I give him an ultimatum to marry me - 3 reasons why this is not a good idea

This is  a really touchy subject and I have seen it go very wrong with two of my girlfriends.


It is hard to be with a guy for a while and he is still not saying whether or not you are the one he wants to commit to and get married to.


You two have been together, what...maybe two or more years. You are feeling like by now he should know whether or not he wants to settle down with you.


And you know what? You are right.


I have asked guys myself, how long does it take you guys to know whether or not you want to be with a woman long term or not? They all said "definitely within a year".


You know what else they all said " You know and you know pretty early".


So yes, him saying that he is not sure or that he is not ready really only means that he is not sure about settling down with you or that he is not quite ready to settle down with you!


So your gut instinct was right, now where do you go from here?


Should you give him an ultimatum to marry you?


You are only thinking about giving him an ultimatum, which really is another way of saying threatening him, because you want to force his hand. Does he or does he not want to marry you?


You are tired of waiting and  you want an answer now. You are actually hoping that by threatening him, you'll get what you desperately want, which is for him to drop down on one knee and propose to you, right?


Not so fast....


Here is why you probably won't get what you want:


1. Men absolutely HATE to be pressured into doing anything at all. At every step in your relationship, you have to make it his idea, even the little things. 


So imagine how he would feel you pressuring him into marrying you when he has already said things like "I'm not ready", "I'm not sure". These are lukewarm responses but they already clue you in to what he is thinking. So you threatening him to marry you is like driving a nail into the coffin.


If he wasn't sure before is he wanted to marry you, you better believe he's sure that he does NOT want to now because you backed him into a corner.


2. By threatening to walk if you he doesn't marry you - especially if that is exactly how you say it during the conversation - makes it seem as though you are desperate to get married, and not necessarily to him. 


It sounds as though you are throwing a tantrum because you cannot get what you want and that in itself is a turn-off because however you spin it, it seems like you are desperate to get the ring. And desperation is never attractive to men. That's another nail in your coffin.


3. If you are not ready to hear the truth from this man whatever it may be, or deal with any outcome,  you cannot give him an ultimatum to marry you.


Let me explain. Suppose you say something like, you have two weeks to make up your mind and then I'm leaving. If he is still unsure at the end of two weeks, you better be ready to walk.


You cannot go back on your threat and then throw a tantrum because he says he is still unsure and clearly is making no moves to make you his wife.


Do you know why?


Because by doing that you have just told him that he can string you along for however long he wants because you are not serious. You have also told him that he can toy with your emotions and play with you because no matter what he does, you are not leaving him. You just need to do that once or twice and that's it, you'll never get the ring. 


What's worse and I have seen this happen, he'll leave you and look for someone else who he cannot manipulate and control - and then marry her!


So the bottom line is that you only give an ultimatum if you are ready to hear the truth and are willing to act on it, whatever the response may be.

Here is a MUCH better way of getting him to pop the question WITHOUT using threats and dangerous ultimatums!

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When guys pull back - 3 quick ways to handle the distance

As I am sure you already know, sometimes men pull away, pull back or become distant and it can really throw you for a loop especially if you did not see it coming.

Everything was fine three weeks ago, right? You two were going out to the movies, picnics, going on relaxing and exciting dates! Life was bliss! You were happy with this guy and he seemed to be very happy with you.

Now, you are barely lucky to see him once a week, he hardly calls and he is suddenly always busy.

And to make matters worse, he seems to have shut down on you. In other words, both you and he know that something is wrong because he isn't talking and you are trying to get him to spill it.

Recipe for disaster...

I encourage you, as frustrating as it is to be in this sort of situation, do NOT become unhinged. Respond to his pulling back with a level head.

Obviously there is something wrong, you just don't know what it is and he does not want to tell you. He prefers to keep a low profile.

If it is that he does not want to have a more committed relationship with you, that's fine. That's his call and he has every right to make that decision.

You respond logically at all costs. Here are three tips that will help you to handle this frustrating situation.

1. Leave him alone. 

Understand that if your boyfriend does not what to talk to you, trying to force him to talk to you or to open up to you will annoy him. If he is not calling you or wanting to spend as much time with him, let him be. Do not badger him. How do you like it when people try to force you to do things that you do not want to do?

2. Give him his space to think and to come find you. 

I know we hear this all the time. Give people their space. All it means is that you allow him to feel whatever he is feeling without any pressure. Let him figure it out. And who knows, later on when he feels like he wants to tell you what the problem is, then he'll seek you out.

3. Occupy your time with other ventures. 

If you do not keep yourself busy with whatever projects you have going on, you will drive yourself crazy trying to figure out if he still wants to be with you, if he still loves you and why isn't he opening up to you?

All questions that you cannot answer with certainty until he tells you outright... if he ever does. If he doesn't ever tell you and the relationship does end, at least your life didn't stop because of him. The earth is still spinning on its axis, right? Exactly...

These are three very quick ways to help you to put his pulling back from you into perspective.

The keys are giving him the space to come to you and to open up to you with whatever he is feeling and detaching yourself from any outcome to maintain your sanity and control!

Click here to understand why men pull away in the first place.

This video is an eye opener and can be the key you were searching for to take your relationship to the next level!

When men pull away - top three signs that he's pulling away

You are probably reading this article because you get that sneaky feeling that your boyfriend is pulling away from you or being distant.

You are not one hundred per cent sure because let's face it, you may be over reacting but one thing you do know is that something has changed and you need to get to the bottom of it.

If there is one thing I have learnt is that when you think that something is off, very often you are right!

So let's go through the top three signs that will clue you in on whether or not your boyfriend is pulling away from you.

1. He spends a lot less time with you now than he did before and he tells you that he is busy as his excuse as to why you two are spending little time together.

So in other words, if you two were seeing each other four or five times a week, you are barely seeing him once or twice now.

When you do see him, the conversation is not as free flowing and it seems as though his mind is elsewhere. His body is there but his mind clearly is not.

In addition, it doesn't seem like it is even that big of a deal that you two aren't seeing each other as often. He just does not seem to care.

What the heck? Doesn't he miss you at all? This is definitely a sign to monitor.

2. He doesn't call you as often as he used to and again it doesn't seem like he even misses hearing your voice.

When you call him, he is always too busy to have a real meaningful conversation with you and you always feel as though he is leaving you hanging.

If anything, this is one of the most important signs to take note of.

Does it seem as though you have unfinished business with him, like if a door is always being closed in your face without you being able to express yourself or spend time being with him or talking with him?

3. He doesn't make plans in advance like he did before.

When you two first started seeing each other, he made plans way in advance. This, as you know, is one of the signs that a guy is interested in you and wants to impress you with all of the fancy places he can take you. He wants to make sure that you two do exciting things together.

So when he starts to get downright lazy and nonchalant about what you two are doing and when, that is a clear sign that he is taking a big step back from the relationship and his commitment to you!

These are three of the main signs that your boyfriend is pulling back from you. Even one of these in isolation signals that there may be a problem in your relationship that needs a speedy solution of some type. 

Find out WHY men pull back from the women they love and how you can make sure that you draw him close again and have the kind of committed relationship you want!

Click here to watch the video! 

We've been together six years but he says that he is not ready to get married

I really do understand how upset and worried you must be.

You are probably wondering why after being together for so long is your boyfriend still saying that he is not ready to settle down with and get married to you.

Maybe he has told you that he is not where he wants to be in his career or that he wants to get his business off the ground first or that he has to get his finances in order.

Perhaps he may have even gone as far as to say that he doesn't see the point in getting married since it's only a piece of paper.

Or maybe he has quoted the statistic that half of all marriages end in divorce.

I could go on and on because a man who is not ready will give you a reason that sounds valid and reasonable enough to justify him not getting married to you right now.

Whatever reason he gives you although you know that the reason is true, it still sounds like an excuse, doesn't it?

I mean it is still an excuse as to why he cannot marry you right now, am I right?
So where does that leave you?

You have to make a decision:

Are you going to wait for him to get his business off the ground, get his career in order, make a million dollars of whatever his goal is, however long that takes?

To help you to answer this question, think about what it is that you really want and ask yourself if where you are at right now in your relationship is a happy place.

Are your dreams, needs and wants being fulfilled?

If the answer is no, then what are the options available to you to get what it is that you want.

In other words, what will help you to make the decision on whether or not you should stay with a man who is not yet ready to get married or is not quite sure he wants to get married to you is putting yourself first and knowing what makes you happy and content and not selling out on that.

You cannot go wrong in making a decision like this if you put your own happiness first!

Do you know why a man will say that he is not ready to get married to a woman that he is in love with?

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He said he's not ready to get married - what should I do?

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This is a question that many women are being forced to answer.

They are at a loss as to what to do when their boyfriends have said time and again that they are not ready to settle down and commit to them and get married.


At this stage there is nothing you can do except to make your feelings, wants desires and emotions a priority.


You cannot force your guy to want to commit to you or to marry you.


He either feels ready or he does not.


He either feels like he is the one he wants to settle down with or he does not.


So at this point, you have two choices:


1. You can stay with him and hope that a light bub goes off in his head and that he realises that you are indeed the woman that he wants to spend the rest of his life with.


Just bear in mind that the light bulb could go off this year, next year or maybe in five or ten years...


2. Depending on how long you have already waited, you may decide to call it quits with him.


In the end the choice is yours. 


Over time I have learnt that even if you tell a woman that she may be better off leaving a guy to his own devices if he just isn't ready to take the next step, it's only when she realises that she probably is better off doing that will she leave.


In the end it is up to you. It's your call...


Just ask yourself , what would make you happy right now?


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AFTER four, five, ten or twenty YEARS!

He tells about his own experience of NOT marrying a woman he loved and explained how and why his current wife got a proposal!

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